feat: support HEAD_DIM=32 and split extension into loader/ops

- add case 32 to decode/prefill dispatch switch
- fix swiz_col out-of-bounds for HEAD_DIM=32: XOR mask now limited to chunk count (3 for 32, 7 for >=64) instead of always 7, which produced column offsets >= LD=32 and corrupted shared memory
- restructure decode dispatch to #ifndef/#else/#endif matching prefill
- split astrai/extension/__init__.py into loader.py (kernel .so discovery) and ops.py (wrapper functions + torch SDPA fallback); __init__.py now re-exports the public API

astrai/extension/loader.py

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+"""Dynamic discovery and loading of compiled CUDA kernel modules.
+
+Each kernel is registered in ``csrc/build.py`` and built into a ``.so`` placed
+in this package directory. On import we try to load each one; kernels that
+failed to build (or are running on a CPU-only machine) are marked unavailable
+so the wrapper functions can fall back to ``torch`` SDPA.
+"""
+
+import importlib
+import logging
+
+logger = logging.getLogger(__name__)
+
+KERNEL_NAMES = ["gqa_decode_attn", "gqa_prefill_attn"]
+
+_available: dict[str, bool] = {}
+_modules: dict[str, object] = {}
+
+for _name in KERNEL_NAMES:
+    try:
+        _mod = importlib.import_module(f".{_name}", package=__package__)
+        _available[_name] = True
+        _modules[_name] = _mod
+    except ImportError:
+        _available[_name] = False
+        _modules[_name] = None
+
+
+def is_available(name: str) -> bool:
+    """Return ``True`` if the compiled kernel ``name`` was loaded."""
+    return _available.get(name, False)
+
+
+def get_module(name: str) -> object:
+    """Return the loaded kernel module for ``name``, or ``None`` if unavailable."""
+    return _modules.get(name)