feat: wire up paged decode CUDA kernel to Python extension

- Add attn_paged_decode wrapper in ops.py with gather fallback
- Register kernel in loader.py and export from __init__.py
- Extract test_utils.cuh shared by all attention unit tests
- Rename attn_paged_vs_contiguous.cu to attn_paged_decode_test.cu
- Refactor decode/prefill tests to use common bf16 helpers and cpu ref
- Fix k_cache dim check in attn_paged_decode.cu

astrai/extension/loader.py

@@ -11,7 +11,7 @@ import logging
 
 logger = logging.getLogger(__name__)
 
-KERNEL_NAMES = ["attn_decode", "attn_prefill"]
+KERNEL_NAMES = ["attn_decode", "attn_prefill", "attn_paged_decode"]
 
 _available: dict[str, bool] = {}
 _modules: dict[str, object] = {}